I’m in a bit of a rut with Canberra right now. I’m trying really hard not to be in a rut and proactively trying to get out of said rut but I am still in a rut.
I’m just a bit bored with it.
I feel like I need to get out and meet more people and do more stuff but I’m not really sure where to start.
I also feel like the town itself is in a bit of depression with the change of government and people being worried about their job security etc. It’s like the centenary bubble has burst. It’s also the end of the year so I guess some things are winding down.
I’m also painfully single and getting fed up with it and experiments with online dating have not yielded any positive interaction. And when I am in a rut I am usually at my least confident and sparkling, so it takes extra effort to overcome that. It’s a cruel Catch 22. And Canberra is a town full of couples, except everyone seems to have imported their partner from somewhere else and dragged them back here. I seriously can’t even think of any couples I know who have actually met in Canberra, so that’s depressing.
The things that are generally nice about Canberra are also starting to irk me. Like seriously, markets of Canberra, why do the stalls never ever change?
Also, I think in the colder months I was like ‘it’s OK, things will be more fun when the weather is less miserable’, yet now the weather is less miserable and that hasn’t directly translated into more fun. I’m swimming laps and trying to do more exercise now the weather has improved, but yeah, swimming laps is hardly social.
People in Canberra seem to largely meet through team sports, which has never been my thing (they really bring back the trauma of school and I am terrible at them, and I hate being on teams where I’m the weakest link and dragging everyone else down and everyone here is so damn fit and alpha and competitive. This is a town where people do boot camps everywhere and on everything, even national monuments are not safe from sweaty hoards of boot campers and their early morning enthusiasm).
And then people are like ‘sign up for a class to meet people!’ Well, everyone arrives at a Zumba class or a yoga class with their friends. So I haven’t found these kinds of things to actually be at all social. They just provide an obvious reminder of capital clique-ness. When I’m out here as well, nobody mingles outside of their group.
In the new year I will try some other things, maybe another language class or something. But I kind of detest that forced interaction stuff too, it always seems so fake, like pre-determined networking events. ‘Hello, I”m going to network with you right now.” So awks.
But at the moment I’m just a bit frustrated with Canberra, especially after spending another Saturday night doing nada. So sorry about the whinge but I just had to vent somewhere.